How To Respond To A Difficult Child

Children develop difficult behavior for many reasons. Some children are born temperamentally more challenging than others. Family conflict, poor parenting, and exposure to violence, drugs, or poverty can make children more prone to difficult behavior — many children who have experienced abuse or neglect display behavioral problems.

Some children act out because they have special needs that aren’t being met. Others are trying to get attention, power, or revenge. But all children need love, limits, and guidance. Handling a difficult child can be exhausting, and it’s important to take care of yourself, too. Here are some tips on how to deal with a child that’s being difficult

1. Try To Stay Calm

It’s hard to think straight when you’re angry or upset. If you need to, take a break. Go for a walk, listen to music, or call a friend. By staying calm, you’ll be better able to handle the situation. 

2. Find Out What’s Going On

There might be a reason for your child’s behavior. Are they hungry, tired, sick, or feeling left out? Once you know the cause, you can try to solve the problem. Also, keep in mind that sometimes children misbehave just because they’re kids.

3. Set Limits

Let your child know what behavior is and isn’t acceptable. Be consistent with your rules and the consequences for breaking them. For example, if your child hits someone, they might need to apologize and break from playing with others.

4. Reward Good Behavior

When your child does something you like, praise them. This will encourage your child to keep up the good work. You can also offer rewards for following rules or reaching goals. For example, your child might get a sticker for staying calm instead of throwing a tantrum. 

5. Avoid Power Struggles

Yelling, threatening, or hitting will only make the situation worse. These tactics can also damage your relationship with your child. If you’re losing your temper, walk away and take deep breaths. It’s OK to ask for help from your partner, a friend, or a professional.

6. Seek Professional Help

If you’re struggling to deal with your child’s behavior, talk to your child’s doctor or a counselor. They can help you figure out what might be causing the problem and how to solve it. Try to talk to someone who has experience with children and knows about behavior problems.

Difficult behavior in children is usually a phase that will pass with time and patience. But some children might need professional help to overcome their challenges. If you’re concerned about your child’s behavior, talk to their doctor. With the right support, your child can learn to cope healthily.


At the Kids Kingdom Early Learning Center, we believe that all children have the right to be treated with respect and understanding. We know that it can be challenging to handle a difficult child, but we are here to help. Our experienced teachers will work with you and your child to find solutions to behavioral problems. We also offer counseling services for parents who need extra support. Contact us today to learn more about our programs and how we can help your family.